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My partner has a/s, and we have been together for just over a year, we also live together.
Last year i found out that he has been unfaithful, even though he is always reminding me that he does love me. I have dated an a/s sufferer before and he was totally head over heels in love just after 2 days! Someone told me that a/s sufferers have an extreme concept of love, but how could it be possible if my partner cheated?

It brings up arguments and im always saying "You cant love me if you did that!" i know i shouldnt say things like that, but he just doesnt understand that he hurts me by doing things like cheating and advertising his 'services' on the internet. I love this guy with all my heart, and we're ment to be getting married.
The only way i have found to show him that he is hurting me is to hurt myself, but that just causes more harm...It's breaking both of our hearts.

I need some advice on what to do, and to save our relationship.

Kate.

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rainbows

hi,i may be going out on a limb here and some may disagree with me,thats ok,but here;s my opinion.Firstly, why would you still consider marrying this man when he hurts you?Is it really because he has aspergers he is doing this,maybe but maybe not,plenty of 'normal' men cheat too.Dont cheat yourself by getting hurt,lifes to short,and you deserve to be happy ,this is not good enough to marry someone,if he does that now i believe he probably always will.Run.